Carmela "Carmen" Gates-Smith

Friday, January 28th, 1944 Wednesday, September 18th, 2019

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Obituary for Carmela "Carmen" Rose Gates-Smith

Carmela "Carmen" (DeCaro) Gates-Smith, 75, of Windsor Locks, beloved wife of 28 years to Leonard Smith III, passed away peacefully in her sleep at home in the early morning hours of Wednesday, September 18, 2019.
She was born January 28, 1944, in Springfield, MA, She was the daughter of the late John and Theresa (Cipolla) DeCaro. Carmen retired from Alstrom of Windsor, CT after 30 plus years of service.
Carmen's greatest joys in life were her family and friends both of whom she always welcomed with an ear to listen or a shoulder to lean and true to her proud Italian roots, the offering of good food.
Besides her husband she is survived by her children Christine Burleigh and her husband Larry, Pamela Pasha and her husband Joe, her grandchildren Robert, Jill-Marie, Hannah, Nicholas, Nathan and Ali, and her great granddaughter Leah. Carmen was looking forward with joy and anticipation of her first great grandson, Elias, due December, 2019. Carmen was predeceased by, "the sister she never had," her best friend, Agnes "Aggie" Pomeroy.
Calling hours will be held Friday, September 27, 2019 from 4-6 p.m. at Windsor Locks Funeral Home, 441 Spring Street, Windsor Locks. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Disabled American Veterans at leave online condolences, please visit

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  • Visitation

    Friday, September 27th, 2019 | 4:00pm - 6:00pm
    Windsor Locks Funeral Home
    441 Spring St
    Windsor Locks, CT
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    Friday, September 27th, 2019
    4:00pm - 6:00pm
  • Interment

    Burial will be private
    Address Not Available

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My dearest Carmen. I knew i would love you the very first day we met. That smile, those eyes that said “ I’m interested in what you have to say”, and that hearty, happy, laugh. And then, the cup of water across the picnic table after the ol’ man finally ‘got your goat’. I knew you were my kinda woman! You will be missed dearly and forever, in so many ways by all. Know that you’ve been a treasured gift to all who knew and loved you and that we know how fortunate we all are to have been blessed by our angel right here on earth💐❤️
Comment | Posted at 12:42pm via Condolence

Lisa Flynn

I am so sorry for your loss - Carmen was a love to be around at work - we all loved her.
Comment | Posted at 01:06pm via Condolence

JoAnne Farrell

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this sad time. Carmen was a kind and loving person. She will be truly missed.
Comment | Posted at 10:02am via Condolence

paula phillips

So sorry for your loss! Aunt Carmen will be missed! prayers for you all during this difficult time. xoxoxo love Paula (Seaman) Phillips
Comment | Posted at 04:29pm via Condolence

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